This time, we gathered for a super inspirational evening and listened to Ida Froyda’s thought-provoking talk titled ‘Living your dreams, or fears? About self-confidence from an unusual perspective’.
Ida explained that self confidence is a skill that we can all learn and asked us to fill in a 3-minute short test in order to get a rough understanding about the level of our own self-confidence and self-esteem. We all evaluated our results privately and then continued to listen to Ida’ talk.
She kicked off by saying that 95 percent of brain activity is beyond our conscious awareness. In other words, only 5% of our brain consciously whereas the remaining 95% is run by the subconscious mind.
Therefore, it’s the subconscious part of our mind that actually controls us. Ida went even further by saying that our thoughts are not really ours:
Latest research in epigenetics, quantum physics and neuroscience revealed that environment is stronger than our will and that 80% of all the information we base our life on is downloaded by the age of 7. These are beliefs, myths, habits, and other people’s thoughts we do not even know which are then deeply embedded within our subconscious mind, much like a software that goes on to control the hardware.
Well then, whose thoughts do we live by? Whose thoughts really do control us?
When we’re trying something new, unknown or risky, what does our subconscious mind say? Is it encouraging us, or (more likely) is it trying to protect us and save us? Practically, it’s always the latter.
Question is how we can access our subconscious in order to gain back control in situations where it’s simply not helping us and hinders our progress.
Ida explained that the key is to develop new habits and thereby new neuro-pathways, and shared two simple but extremely powerful tools with the audience:
- Do this when the voice in your head pops up:
Step back and consciously choose to ask these 3 questions:
Is it what I want to hear? Is this thoought really supporting me? Is it empowering me?
If the answer is no, then say thank you to your voice: “Thank you for sharing your point, I appreciate your anxiety to protect me. However, many people have done it already.” And then land the plane by saying “I’m fine and I can manage my life.”
- Celebrate your wins and failures as well!
Celebrate each and every success you achieve, even the tiny ones, and praise yourself whenever you succeed, but don’t forget to also celebrate your failures because there are valuable lessons in them for which we should be grateful.
The Q&A lasted well into the evening, and we continued the conversation in the brasserie over a few drinks and snacks.
Thank you very much for all of you who joined us, special thank you from Ida for the warm welcome, great questions and the active participation.
We’ll be back in November.
For those of us wanting to learn more about how we can get equipped with the necessary life skills we need to create a life that we love, Ida designed this highly reflective and practical one-day workshop, taking place
on Saturday 8th February 2020 in Central London.
Check the agenda here and join Ida alongside fellow language professionals in a
cosy French brasserie.
Take a step back from your everyday life, work on yourself and get a fresh perspective on life, so you can tackle all those new challenges that lie ahead in the new decade.
About the speaker, Ida Froyda, in her own words:
I have always been passionate and concerned about freedom; especially personal freedom. That is why I was baffled and shocked; how come these intelligent, smart human beings are „happy” to give up the control over their lives and choose to follow the traditions, the old paradigms instead of finding their own voice and power? And then complain all the time about the circumstances or blame someone else for the “bad luck” they have to face instead of taking the control in their own hands. To be honest, up until the last 4-5 years I did not have a clue why, then I got the answer.
To my family’s greatest surprise, after I had several years of success in business (I established 14 companies and ran some of them for years), I took a deep breath and moved to London from Hungary in 2012 in order to learn more about who I was, why people behaved the way they did etc.
Then in London I had the privilege of learning from the top influencers, trainers, teachers, mentors really from the best of the best such as Kim and Robert Kiyosaki, Tony Robbins, T.Harv Eker, Blair Singer and many others. I got invaluable insight into human behaviour, the world of emotions, and the human mindset. Now I have better understanding.
All in all I have had a happy and successful life so far. Except for 15 months when I hit rock bottom 4 years ago … financially, emotionally … my self confidence was gone. The knowledge I had gathered from those wonderful people literally saved my life. I am so much wiser now. This January I turned 67 and at this age I am rebuilding my life with joy and curiosity, and want to teach others who are open to learn; there is always a way out even from the deepest low, if you become empowered you can fulfil your dreams.
My education: first I graduated as an economist, later got my degree in linguistics and English language teacher.
(I’m divorced, have a son of 46, a 41 year old daughter with mental and physical disabilities, and a lovely 91 year old mum.)
Feel free to reach out to Ida if you have any questions to her. She’s active on Facebook, and this is her email address: firstname.lastname@example.org. She’ll be pleased to hear from you.